Remarried couples have some kind of psychology?
Is there a certain kind of psychology for remarried couples?
The psychological status of remarried couples is different from that of first-married couples. The former has some psychological sensitivities that are not generally available. The following is a detailed introduction.
銆€銆€The psychology of remarried couples: Habitual psychology may have formed their own interests, hobbies and habits in the first marriage. After remarriage, they can’t adapt to each other at the same time, especially sexual habits. If they don’t understand each other,Familiarity with each other’s desires, requirements and skills may lead to disharmony in sexual life and cause dissatisfaction on both sides.
銆€銆€Therefore, the remarried couple took the initiative to adapt to each other’s habits and looked for a compromise solution that would take care of the habits of both parties.
In addition, both sides should have sufficient tolerance spirit, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, coordinate with each other, and gradually establish new living habits.
銆€銆€The children of the self-interested first-marriage family use the inherent bond of blood to bind the parents together, and the children of the remarried family are prone to contradictions because of the lack of blood relationship, and it is easy for parents to have selfishness and favor their own children.
In fact, the blood can not completely surpass the acquired feelings. Guan Jian is the two sides to re-marriage with noble moral sentiments, generous fraternity, and deal with the relationship with stepchildren, if the other child is like his own children, evenBetter, it can greatly change the psychological distance of remarried couples.
銆€銆€Alert psychological remarriage Both husband and wife have some property in the past family. Considering the breakdown of the previous marriage, they often have a guardianship mentality, implement economic blockade, distract their minds, stay behind their hands, and make troubles. This leads to the real family name.
In fact, since the family has been rebuilt, it is necessary to use all the property together without reservation, so as to deepen the marital relationship.
銆€銆€Nostalgic psychology is more common in remarried people who have deep feelings in a former marriage couple and who died as a result of illness or accident.
After remarriage, it often reveals the nostalgia for the former spouse, and this nostalgic psychology is most likely to cause the pain of the other party in the remarriage.
Therefore, after remarriage, the remarried person must strengthen the prevention of nostalgia from the feelings and reality.
銆€銆€Comparing a problem that a psychologically remarried couple is prone to commit is to compare the advantages of the original spouse with the shortcomings of the current spouse, and everything is critical and dissatisfied everywhere.
This will hurt the other’s feelings, and also disappoints the rebuilding family, causing the marriage to break again.
As everyone knows, each has its own strength and each has its own shortcomings.
Appropriately and comprehensively evaluate each other, understand each other, recognize each other’s strengths, help them overcome their shortcomings, and make each other become their ideal spouse.
銆€銆€Seriously, many remarriage people are often full of shackles or care about each other’s premarital life. From time to time, they expose their seriousness, slanders, swearing at each other’s personality, and damaging their self-esteem. The long-term will affect the feelings of both sides.
Therefore, remarried couples must prevent acute psychosis, especially sexual suspicion, cope with each other’s psychological chastity, cherish the feelings of the other party’s love, soothe the traumatic heart of the other, in order to make the two hearts tightly combined.
銆€銆€Retaliation for excessive psychological divorce, resentment against the former spouse, re-selection of the object only requires appearance or some aspects of the former spouse, to achieve the purpose of retaliation.
Because this choice is often blind, not based on emotional foundation, not only can not balance their own psychology, but also make the family foundation after remarriage is not stable.
Therefore, marriage psychologists believe that it is important to reflect on themselves, re-evaluate their performance in the past family, find the misunderstanding of the former marriage, and constantly improve and enrich themselves, so that they can be well-qualified in the new combination of families.The role of, thus, improve the quality of the actual marriage.